It seems that all of my friends around me are getting pregnant and I'm beginning to feel the pressure. Two of my friends just had new babies a couple months ago, another one of my friends just had a new baby three weeks ago, and just tonight two more of my friends announced that they were pregnant as well! *sigh* I'll tell you all right now folks... IT'S NOT HAPPENING. Not yet at least. Nope, I still don't feel ready to have a tiny tot. It isn't because I don't ever want to have kids, I just don't feel that this is the time for us to get pregnant. Ander tells me that he honestly doesn't care when we have kids, and just tonight after the big announcement of our friends he told me he felt more ready to have babies when we first got married than he does now! Me? I've never felt like it was time. Ever. I'm so happy for all of my friends, and their babies are darling, it's just not my time yet. I love kids. I feel like I'm good with kids. I hold babies all the time! I'm just 23 and I've only been married for three years and I still want to wait. Being Mormon is an even bigger pressure sometimes because of all the girls starting bigger families pretty young. It's just not my style and it never has been. You may say: "Oh but Susie, you never really feel ready... it's just something you have go for" No. I believe I'll never fully feel ready, but I also believe that there is a point and time that I will reach in my life where I will find out I am pregnant and not fall on the floor and cry for three days. In all honesty, I kind of have two kids already: a husband who I am constantly having to feed and a puppy that I am constantly cleaning up after. And for me right now, that's really all I can handle.
Honestly, I don't think it's that big of a deal. :B Sorry for the pressure. That's probably a little tough with so many people around you bein' like BABEHZZZZZ. But do what you feel is right.
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I know sort of how you feel. Seems like everyone I know is pregnant or just had a kid, but I felt like that the summer I met Andrew (that everyone I knew was getting married), so I figure I'm a year behind. :) I am ready though, but scared to death too.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that there is a woman in the world that has not felt this pressure either due to age or family, friends, or church. I think that it is just out there, but I do feel that you are correct in saying that as members we feel a different kind of social pressure that has to do with the church.
ReplyDeleteI feel the same kind of pressure all the time. And I don't think that you should give in. James and I waited almost 5 years before having Gwen, it is true that you never feel quite ready, but you will know when you do feel more ready. You are doing just fine Susie, a husband and a dog are quite a handful so I am impressed with you already.